It’s one of those days. You know, the days when you feel like crying at the drop of a hat, you’re uncomfortable in your skin, and nothing seems to be going your way. You’re grief-stricken, angry, scared, or just feel uneasy and nothing seems to be helping. When your heart is breaking and the minutes crawl by like hours, it can feel like you’re going to be stuck in the muck forever.
We all have those days when we're in the flow and everything we touch turns to gold. Then there are those other days when nothing seems to come together and we're better to not touch anything at all!
Here are 7 ways to get through when you're trippin':
1. Take a Walk.
Anyone who knows me well knows I’m all about walks. I find the fresh air, the rhythm of my feet on the earth, and the simplicity of one-step-at-a-time to be deeply comforting, especially when I’m feeling off-center. It might take heroic effort to get out the door but once you’re outside I’m pretty sure you’ll be glad you’re there.
2. Talk to Someone Who’s on Your Side.
This is important especially if you’re trippin’ because you’re in conflict with someone, are going through a break-up, or are feeling lonely or heartbroken. A simple conversation with someone who loves you can remind you that not all the eggs are in that shit basket. Connecting with someone who cares can help you to remember than you are loveable and that you are, like the rest of us, learning as you go.
3. Have a Yoga and Movement Practice.
What good is a practice if it doesn’t bring relief when you need it most? Often, it’s when we’re struggling that we resist getting on the floor or on the mat. When we do get moving though, we can get out of our heads and reconnect with a sense of ease and flow. Practice is also an opportunity to get curious about the storm that’s blowing through and to breath with it instead of resisting or ignoring it.
4. Do Simple Household Tasks.
On days like this it’s easy to neglect simple household tasks in favor of trippin’ out. I get it. Washing dishes, sweeping the floor, and folding laundry however, can actually help to get you out of your reeling head and into the present moment. Also, creating change in your outer environment can surprisingly help to shift your inner state by moving and clearing stagnant energy.
5. Create and Surround Yourself with Beauty.
This is huge for me on days that I’m struggling. Arranging flowers, burning incense, sprucing up my altar, reading poetry, and dressing pretty are all little things that help to lift my mood. As trivial as it may sound, connecting with beauty can actually allow us to reconnect with our souls and it can bless us with a renewed sense of grace.
6. Watch a Movie.
When all else fails, sometimes you just need to take a break from your own reality for a little while. Wrap yourself in a blanket, have some high-vibe snacks, snuggle with your kitty (if you have one), and give yourself permission to temporarily set down what ails you. Let yourself be off the hook for a couple hours.
7. Trip Out.
As long as you’re not causing harm to yourself or others…Go ahead and trip out. Sit in the middle of the muck. Have a tantrum. Cry until you feel empty. Feel what needs to be felt. Lie on the floor with your belly down and your arms outstretched as though you were giving the earth a hug and let the earth hug you back. Lean into the center of the storm and feel what’s there. Feel all the textures of your heartbreak, your grief, and your anguish.
It often takes more energy to resist what’s there than to dive in headfirst. Remember that regardless of how bleak things may appear right now...this too shall pass. Even the most persistent discomfort shifts when we give it time and space. In the meantime, explore what brings you comfort. Be oh-so-kind with yourself and have compassion for your tender humanity. We do the best we can. I’m rooting for you.
© 2014 Marie-Ève Bonneau